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Thursday, 27 November 2008

So I still cant understand the circumference of his head but I guess its that shape for a reason! He keeps releasing all these songs that I absolutely love!! High five to the director of this video... I feel like Beyonce and Ne-yo are really tryna bring that R'n'B era back...

Oh alright then... here's another one... Jamie Foxx feat. T.I - Just Like Me. Now let me be honest, I cant take Jamie Foxx seriously... there's just something about him, so despite serious pleading from a good friend I didnt listen to his last album. In fact she uploaded it on my iPod but I deleted it... buuttt I think imma give this album a chance!! This vid is funny!!


Wednesday, 26 November 2008


My 'best friend' calls after 4/5 months of not talking... how am I supposed to react? At first, I was soooooooo angry, like the nerve of this dude - so when it suit him he can switch the friendship on or off... I shoulda locked off but I didnt. I talked to him for a bit realising that I thought I would miss him much more than I did. We were talking about whats new in our lives and as much as I didnt think things had changed for me... I think my character has evolved! I think I'm stronger, my mouth is still as sharp as ever - so physically/materially I havent changed but Im aware of my emotions and how to control them. Emotions aren't meant to be controlled you say but when you think and behave like me, they are!!

I'm trying to get over some dude, really Im trying! Like I'll be good, wouldnt have thought about him for a few days or so... then out of nowhere... all that restraint goes to waste!! I dont know what it is because I know that Ive liked guys way more than this one... guys nicer than this one... its crazy!! I dont even feel like he deserves me liking him sorta thing... but I do and I desperately want to get over it!
I cant give it time either... it has to be a quick process... nothing long!

Im going to apologise to one of my friends... I'm realising more and more each day that quite frankly... I'm stubborn! I dont know what it is... I dont why I'm this way but I always have to put my point across, I hate the feeling of being taken for a 'dickhead'... I hate it!! I hate when guys tell me what to do... I hate when girls tell me what to do... but I really hate it when guys do it! They talk in such a patronising way like they're your dad or something... looking out for your best interests and all that jazz when really I know they love the whole 'control' factor. Some of them anyway!
Some guys just get off of the fact that they have someone to control and I just cant take that, so I exude stubborness and I've lost a perfectly good friend! He bought me a birthday cake and flowers for my birthday cos I was depressed... I know, depressed on your birthday! And I didnt show him no love at all for his, hardly show him any love at all, but I do cherish the friendship we have... argh I'm going to apologise!

It seems like we're always talking about guys on this blog... so lemme break it up with something I hate about girls! They talk toooooooo much!! No seriously, ladies you've gotta take a breath and sometimes not say anything! I have friends that call me and can talk straight for a good few hours... I'm talking one sided convos... I'm the person that 'hmms' and 'aahs'... lool but on a serious note, girls talk too much! Sometimes words are not needed!! Yeah yeah I write a lot but thats different, writing is everything I think about and you already know I think a lot! Ladies are emotional, sharing and caring... yuck... I dont think its necessary to air out your business. I think if everyone just took a few minutes to analyse some of their problems, the solutions would be much more apparent than talking to your 6 friends... just to figure it out all yourself anyway!
So its good to talk, just dont over do it!! Sooooooo rant over!!

Different but I love it! My bro didnt quite agree with me on the 1st listen but he's rinsing out the tune now... thought I'd throw in something fun!!

Master Shortie - Dead End

Tuesday, 25 November 2008

Black Girls!

Soooo... I may have scared you guys a bit with my anti men... men cheat... trick, bitch, ho tirade but I was angry! You have to understand where I was coming from but I'm done with that now... I havent introduced you to the fun side, the diplomatic side, the insightful ME!! Today, I'm gonna go for fun! Gabrielle thought it would be interesing to guess what appeals to the black male, so I made a list...

1. Colour is irrelevant
2. Age is irrelevant (but I didnt go R.Kelly on you guys... that would just be cruel)
3. They must be PENGERS... as in good looking!

... but you can be the judge of that, in no particular order


Lauren London

Gabrielle Union

Meagan Goode

Maybe even Cassie... or Solange??

Eva Longoria

How about Eva Mendes??

Charlize Theron

Dania Ramirez or best friend Kelis??

This list could go on and on and on... oh you thought I was done without mentioning the sexiest female of 2008 - not my words!!

Halle Berry (note that this was not the kind of pic I was looking for. I am not a lesbian, this was one of the photos she took for Esquire - the mag that voted her 'sexiest female')

*sigh*... the list is too long, this male to female ratio must be true cos I'm even thinking of ladies that I left out!

Kelly Rowland
Sanaa Lathan
Cheryl Cole (side eye)
Keyshia Cole (another side eye)
Alicia Keys
Jessica Alba
Jada Pinkett Smith
Nia Long
Keri Hilson

Blah blah blah, I'm done with it. Now some eye candy for the ladies, just as Gabrielle said Mark Ronson (yuck) has something about him, so does David Banner. Thank God for this tall cup of hot chocolate... nice!

Thursday, 20 November 2008


I think a lot... about everything and anything... wake up in the middle of the night thinking about stuff!!

Some examples:

Why do people get ear wax? Why do guys wear doorags? If I continuously batter/squish annoying flies... will I go to hell? I wonder what heaven is like?

Why do singers do that open mouth sexy thing when they get closer to the opposite sex... it looks really fake... real slutty!

Men in white shoes?? I don't mean trainers! Women in white shoes?? Why?

You know when a girl is wearing jeans/shorts/trousers and they wear a belt... but either the belt is too small... or it cant handle the junk in their trunk... it does this pulling thin... I hate it!

Guys with brown nails... girls with brown nails!! Sort it out please!

When someone calls you and has nothing to say... annoying!

When you see an attractive guy/girl... make the necessary eye contact but still nothing happens... yet that cross eyed guy/girl from down the road thinks its fully acceptable to make a move on you!

Facebook... yes/no?? Addictive?? No one wants to know your life story... stop updating your status every five minutes... gosh!

The word 'swagger'... who created it?? Who started it?? Bet it was a good idea at the time... but now everyone and their mums are talking about having the 'most swagger'... Fools!

People that cough and dont cover their mouths?? I dont understand... its not rocket science! Just spreading their germs all willy nilly!

Shopping on a Saturday in a very busy centre... shopping online with a crappy internet connection?

Gabrielle Union with no common sense or a very smelly Lauren London?

Morris Chestnut with a pot belly, practically no muscles or Cedric the Entertainer??

I forgot to mention a definite in my top guys list... Will Smith... he gets better with age!!

Tuesday, 18 November 2008

Hola, Bonjour, Hello...

Hello, is it me you're looking for?
- Lionel Richie

This is my first post on this blog :-)
I was going to write an introduction, but I could'nt be bothered and I'm sure you'll get to know me through my future posts.
I was saw this and thought I should share...

The Heel and Toe?? *tilts head*...really?
And don't think I did'nt notice the very wooden interpretation of the 'Dancing Machine' ...Wow

Sunday, 16 November 2008

'Cos This Stuff Can Only Happen To ME

It's been a month since the 'bitch, trick, ho' situation but I felt like I had to update you guys with my 1st post... just so you knew what was going on in my life! Its been very hard, I can't lie but I've just had to keep it moving (as Gabrielle so wisely suggested) but I have this feeling that the universe is trying to get me back for something... I dunno!

I've been going out, trying to get back to my old routines, keeping myself busy and Saturday was no different! I woke up extra extra early 'cos I needed to do my hair, (ladies... you know when it gets to that time... you can't run/hide anymore)... I know it gets crazy busy from as soon as the shop opens so I got there early and finished... hmmm... at a reasonable time I guess! I always hope for the best when I go hairdressers... finish in 2 hours tops... but it never goes to plan!

So, I'm done with the hairdressers, done with the food shopping, feel a bit hungry and pop into Greggs! KMT!! I dunno... am I to blame for being hungry or what?! It really is getting to me now... I pick up a sandwich and a drink... get into the queue and my heart skips a beat!

It looks like HIM from the back... but I couldnt tell... I was breathing so deeply you woulda thought I was going into labour... kmt... fucking hell man!! Just bullshit! Its only been 2 minutes in the queue but seems like much longer... I've managed to calm myself down... I mean it might not even be him! But lo and behold - it was HIM!

He just stood there looking at me... fucking wanker! Staring for a solid 5 minutes before he mustered up 'hey' (in yellow because it was a very feeble, sheepish 'hey')... kmt... I must be a dickhead 'cos this fool is really trying to be friendly... it hasn't even been that long since the incident... so why is he talking to me?! I dunno what came over me but I was so pissed off... I said a sharp 'hello' and kept it moving... he walked back up to me, grabbing my arm asking if we could talk... but at that point I had absolutely nothing to say.

I loved that guy for 3 years of my life... he loved that bitch for 3 minutes... and I must be the cordial one... I must act like the bigger person and go somewhere and talk... nah fuck that! I bought my food and walked past him... left him standing there like the prick that he is... and as much as I want to go on like 'superwoman'... I burst into tears as soon as I left the shop, i don't know what came over me! Sad, I know!

I loved him for 3 years of my life... and now nothing! They say 'love is forgiving'... not my love!

Friday, 14 November 2008

My Top Guys...

This is totally my opinion... and not in any particular order! If any one of these guys proposed to me... it would be a straight YES!! Not all that cryin crap... "oh my gosh... I don't know what to say" rubbish... no hesitation on my part, just a straight YES!!

Jackie Long... I dunno... there's just something about this guy!!

Q from 112... I have to be honest, I never used to pay him any attention... it used to be all about Daron for me... then I saw them at a radio station (oh those celebrity chasing days... I was young - please don't insult me)... Q stood out! He actually looks like this!

Gotta get someone from this side of the pond... soooo who other than Idris Elba!! Woop Woop!! I don't care... I don't care... he is a very fine specimen!! And he's from the LDN... where did all our brothers go?

And note... that I do not discriminate... Paul Walker, Wentworth Miller and yes... Mark Ronson... definitely have the 'je ne sais quoi' about them... I don't know what it is... but they have it!!

I stand by this dude... he just upped his swags effortlessly! Got rid of the head band... the plaster... them baggy ass clothes... and totally upgraded! I 'heart' Nelly!

I can't think of any others at this moment... but this is not the end of my list... hmm... maybe I should ask the fellas who their top ten ladies are... could be very interesting!!

Wednesday, 12 November 2008

Bring on the movies....

I've been really bored of late... just really bored, its got to the point where even Facebook doesnt do the job... which then spurs me to rekindle my love with Youtube! How I love it so... I think of anything off the top of my head, type it in and voila... you might see a few vid posts in the future... embrace it!!

One of my faves... 'The Wood'... I dont know how many times Ive watched it... but I know its too much... when you start knowing all the lines and can re-enact one whole scene, its A LOT!!

Just like this movie too... I have to give Better Never Than Late a shout out for that one... saw it there... and it brought back so many memories!!

Since there is no excitement in my life right now... this is me!! Having read 'Me' talk about her life has me rather thankful for my mundane days... sorry Me! Might have to change the name of the blog... 'A black girl with issues'... lmaoooo... I'm sooorryyyy!! Me... you know its all love! Your man obviously didn't deserve you if all that girl did was wave her coochie in the air... you know how I feel about this anyway... just 'keep it moving'... your future will thank you for it!

Tuesday, 11 November 2008

Shit just got real!

Those are just a few words that come to mind when I think about that prick! She knew what she was doing from the get go and I can't believe I fell for it. You could call her an 'angel in disguise' cos I believed everything she said and stuck up for her when people used 2 cuss her out! Im such an idiot! Arrghhh... I can't express how pissed off I am... but IM PISSED! Like WTF... I brought her into my circle, she had no fucking friends, she had no life before I met her and I felt bad for her cos she was such a nice person. The last laugh is on me init... cos Im the one who now has no friends and no man!

My friends stopped talking to me because I continued to talk to her, they told me about her loose self and I refused to listen cos I'm stubborn like that! Big fuckin' mistake! How can I justify it? It doesnt even make sense in my head... she slept with my boyfriend, SHE...SLEPT...WITH...MY...BOYFRIEND!

I always said it would never happen to me... now look! It just doesnt make sense... I was with him for 3 years and I treated him right, I know I did! If I hadn't he would've left me from time... 3 fucking years of my life... don't get it twisted, I am mad at him but thats another issue! Its the fact that I try to be this loving, caring, friendly person and its get thrown back in my face!

I can't sleep, I can't eat, I'm always thinking about them... together... trying to figure out when this madness started... regretting the day I ever met that bitch. Dumb skank, stupid prick! She knew what she was doing, she knew! And I was there, ignorant to it all... such a fuckin' dumbass! I can't think straight, I just don't know what to do... what do I do?!

Im too old for this shit, I dunno... arrghhhhhh!! It feels surreal, like I wish it didn't happen but I know it did... I can't explain the feeling!

All I know is this one girl has changed my life and I don't know how long its gonna take to get back to normal. Fuckin' tramp! ARRGHHHH!! Just making me look like any dickhead... the worst thing is that my friends warned me but I'm too bloody stubborn... now look where I am! Kmt!

Shit just got real - 4 real!

*the expletives... sorry... but that's how I feel... *

Monday, 10 November 2008

Don't Hate!

This vid has been circulating and I love it!! Good to know its not only the ladies that practise dance moves in their rooms... this guy slyly puts some girls to shame!!

Get it boy! *clicks fingers*

Sunday, 9 November 2008

Hi!! My name is Me...

I know... 'Me'... I have to keep it real with you guys... I'm gonna be sharing a lot and I don't know who will come across this blog... so unlike Gabrielle... I will not share my identity! But rest assured that you're getting nothing but the truth from me.

I'm 24, living in London and unlike the blog, I am a Black Girl With Issues! I cannot lie! Everyday is... lol... everyday is different! There will be some funny stories, best believe... but there will be posts where I vent... only natural!

I feel very privileged to write on this blog... thank you Gabrielle for having me!

'My name is Me... and shit just got real!'

Ever Have Days Like This...

Life is crazy!! I'm telling you... it started with one thing and just catapulted into numerous problems! And even though this is how I feel right now... no one will ever know! I'm private like that... but I do want the madness to end!

Friday, 7 November 2008

They Say A Good Black Man Is Hard To Find...

Women complain about the shortage of good men and relocating to another part of the world to find 'The One'... but how many women have actually come across a good man and dismissed him? I came across this and couldn't agree more with what the author said... I just wish I knew who wrote it!

Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and the halls at work. Most we can’t see because we don’t know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn’t flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it’s better to find someone who’s got your back rather than someone who turns your head.

A good man doesn’t agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn’t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won’t have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn’t have to degrade you to prove he’s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don’t live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, “Aha! I knew you were a dog!”

A good man isn’t insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.

A good man doesn’t necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine’s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don’t judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You’ll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It’s just not true.

A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. A good black man has a love and a heart for God. As his relationship and love with and for God grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow…Our beautiful black men we salute you, appreciate you and thank you for who you are and all you’ve done.

-author unknown