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Monday, 29 December 2008

An update is more than needed...

So right now I'm in an internet cafe, kmt... my laptop died! *sigh* After spending £200 to get it fixed, it literally just died on my lap... couldn't resuscitate it! I had some things to sort out that my Blackberry wouldn't allow, so thought I might as well update you guys on the latest!! At least keep you amused til the next post!!

Where do I begin...

Ok!! I told you I met someone right... haha... erase that from your memory!! I feel bamboozled once again, because when I met him he was nice, charming and held an intelligent conversation! I don't know whether I was wrong for giving him my number or wrong for not lying in saying I had a boyfriend! Either way... I was looking forward to future interaction and hmm... I was not impressed! Quite appalled in fact!

"On the day I flew back from Naija, I had to go to my girlfriends place because it would have taken me yearssss to get home. As soon as I got there, I fell asleep then I woke up and took my bath!! You know my girlfriend came in to 'SCROB' *side eye* my back... she actually 'scrobbed' my back!"

That was it for me!! A sign from above... such a crystal clear sign that this was not the guy for me!! I can only look back and laugh!!

Nothing much has been happening... just anticipating 2009!! 2008 was shite... I don't care, I don't care! If the year was good for you... congratulations!! I just want 2008 to be over so I can at least anticipate something good happening in 2009!! Manifest destiny and all!!

There seems to be so many events at the end of the year... birthdays, jamming sessions, house parties etc!! I make up for my hibernation in December and these past few days/weeks have been no exception! I really had a good time at a friends birthday dinner... laughing with friends, insulting the waiters (haha... I'm joking!! I would never do that), meeting new people - networking around the room!!! I really liked the company and the guys there were not baaaadd!! Lol! I find it funny when guys flirt... hahaha, every guy has a different method but it's all still the same outcome!! They don't get the 079... loool... but the build up is entertaining!!

I was on a high from my friend's dinner and was persuaded by a good friend to go to a 'get together' sorta thing! Now, I did plan to go earlier in the week but as the day drew closer, I decided against it! I couldn't tell you the reason but I just didn't feel like going! And one lesson I've learned so prominently is 'stick with your gut feeling'... it just wasn't my crowd! I wasn't comfortable and I was on my BB throughout... I love my BB... but come on!! I'm not even going to say what was going through my mind whilst I was there but I will give props to the host ('cos I know he reads this)... It was a good night for many but I'm just not 'down' for that crowd!!

Another big lesson... I go to no events without one member of the team!! A very strict rule from now on... *sigh*

Happy Holidays!!

P.S. Hopefully I will post before New Years Day... but you know the deal!!

Saturday, 13 December 2008

Hmm... Im In One of Those Moods Today! Lol!

I hate London Transport... with a PASSION!! Why did I innocently get on the train to go home and see this chick fully digging out her boogers?! WTH?? Is that even acceptable? Proper diggin out her nose like her life depended on it... I was so sickened!! Then she's gonna go home to her man (if she has one, her hygiene levels would suggest otherwise) and hug him up with her booger infested hands!! KMT!! FOOL!

I met someone... lool!! No really!! I think... I dunno, we'll see!

Every girl and their mum has jumped on these shiny lame leggings hype... I dunno!! Some people look like idiots... if your legs aren't toned - why would you subject yourself to such embarrasment?! Just seeing the cellulite imprints on the leggings... nuff said!

I went to the salon to do my hair! *sigh*... I predicted 3 hours... way too ambitious! It is not imperative to spend the whole day @ the hairdressers but I feel like wherever I go, that is exactly what I end up doing! This black people timing/mentality is really not working for me at all!

Got my BlackBerry! Woop Woop!! Merry Christmas to me! Loool!! Not buying anyone presents this year... didn't buy anyone presents last year as it goes... my friend Mike called me 'Scrooge'... imagine!!

My best friend made contact...

Don't you hate when it rains... you get on the bus and sit down... your seat feels wet but you convince yourself its just cold, then you get off the bus and realise it was actually WET!! Could that be PISS?! My hatred for public transport is... my hatred for public transport is like my hatred for fat kids!! As much as you wish they would disappear... they never do! Fat kids irk me 'cos they always know the exact time to linger around you... just breathing all loud, mouth watering, stubby fingers... "ohhhh I want some!" Just GREEDY!!

I am constantly being told that I look very young for my age... compliment or insult?!

Teedra Moses... we love you!! We miss you!! Come back soooooooon!

Oh that reminds me... another candidate for my 'crush' list... Columbus Short!! He is too much in 'Stomp the Yard'... just smiling throughout the whole film... hahaha neeeeek!! I don't care... fine example of a good black man! Do excuse his attire... he was working!! Lol!

I am loving Brandy right now... her live performances are serious! Her runs are perfect every single time!

I'm actually really happy for Alexandra - X-Factor winner 2008! London does have talent... such a better representative than that dry ass Leona!! I cannot be the only person that thinks that girl is boring... it actually hurts! Talented but dry as hell!! Can you imagine a conversation with her?! Lmao... Exactly!!

Hmm... I'm in one of those moods!

"We can pop bottles
All night
Baby you can have whatever you like"
... No strings attached?! Seen!

Really cold fish and chips or really cold Special Fried Rice?!

I want a pair of Uggs... they may make your feet look way bigger than they really are... may not be attractive to the human eye... but they keep your feet warm! Anyone... T.I, Santa, Hugh Hefner!!
No, I'm playing... Miss Independent out here!! I hate when girls say that if I'm honest... you should never have to brag about buying your own things and providing for yourself... people will be able to see that just by looking at the way you carry yourself! I blame Destiny's Child! Heffers!

Err thats it!

Thursday, 11 December 2008

Something New....

Ebony and Ivory
live together in perfect harmony
side by side on my piano keyboard
oh lord why dont we?
- Paul McCartney and Stevie Wonder 'Ebony and Ivory'

Lately I've been receiving alot of attention from men - mainly White guys. Now before I delve any further on this topic, I want to state there is nothing wrong with finding 'Something New' or getting your 'Jungle Fever' on, but its not really my preference.

A few years ago if you had asked me whether or not I would date a White guy the answer would of been a quick NO. Simply because I've never really been attracted to one, don't get me wrong I can look at someone like Wenworth Miller and 'appreciate' his looks (lol) but the 'average Joe' is a different story (don't ask me why).

However, a part of me thinks, why should I limit my chances of finding a good man simply because he is a different colour? What if the man that can truly make me happy does not fit this small box of preference that I have created for myself?

Its a sad fact that Black Women are less likely to get married in comparison to any other race and we are also the least likely to marry outside our ethnic group...coincidence?

Maybe. Maybe not.

Although I also feel that there would be a huge culture clash within an interracial relationship. For example something like 'meeting the parents', which already has its own anxieties could be a very awkward experience. Coming from an African background, there are certain little aspects of my culture or codes of respect that my 'Vanilla Love' might not understand and may un-intentionally disrespect i.e calling my Mum by her first name (I know Gabrielle is nodding her head in agreement with that one lol).

Luckily for me most of family are quite open-minded, and I honestly don't think my mum would have a problem with me dating outside my race but I can definately see her making a few jokes though SMH.

This is a topic that I have discussed with various people, and its been mentioned that some Black women don't like to date outside of their race because they feel some sense of loyalty to the 'Brothers'. That's strange because It does'nt seem like the Black man shares this loyalty or maybe he is unaware of our unspoken pact?

....And is it me or does society make it more acceptable for a Black Man to date a White Women but not the other way round?

Then there's the issue of raising children. I don't know about you, but growing up I was confused enough, figuring out what nationality to tick on an application form. How do you provide a healthy balance of diverse cultures within a child's up-bringing?

I'm going to stop here because this post is already too long :-) Maybe I'll create a part 2?

Like always your comments/thoughts are welcomed,


Tuesday, 9 December 2008

T.O.N.Y by Solange Knowles

Everyone has that one guy/girl who messed them up!! Felt like you were completely in love but that person wasn't mirroring the same feelings you had! Prevents you from putting yourself out there again, the person that made you bitter maybe even scared!! Anyway, this song is a progression - starts off feeling neglected, needy and by the end of the song, smart and confident, realising that the person was no good anyway!! Its one of those BELT OUT type songs, picturing a girl/guy on their bed singing their heart out after calling the person more than 20 times with no reply! LOL

I'm sure I had already watched the video but can't find it anywhere... listen to it though!

'Me and Tony don't speak no more
It all most been a week oh no
My how time goes so fast
But I still refuse to call his ass
I remember the way that I reacted
And today is even more attractive
But I really miss Tony.

Then Tony call me one day
He said that he just called to say hey
And it wasn't until he called me back
That I realized I needed more than that
I'm a love wiser and a little older
Hey baby it was nice to know ya
Good bye Tony.'

Feels Good to Be Back!!

I love the Internet, and when it refused to co-operate I realised that it has taken over my life!! I don't really watch TV anymore (apart from the Hills, College Hill and the old re-runs of Girlfriends)... but apart from that... its all the worldwide web!! My apologies, I did want to post!! Time to catch up!!

I would like to acknowledge all the Caucasians catching jungle fever! Ms TooFly can elaborate when she posts but I have been attracting quite a few and you all know that I do not discriminate!! But these guys, they're not the Paul Walker, Wentworth Miller even Mark Ronson that I asked for!! Haha... "what will please you woman?" I don't knoowwww, but the calibre of people that have been approaching me... *sigh* one sweet day!!

Yaaay for me!! I apologised to my friend and even though I haven't heard from him since, (shameful init), I'm content!! I'm happy that I swallowed my pride and apologised because I did realise that I wasn't a good friend to him and so now that that has been dealt with, the guilty feeling has gone!

I like the smell of petrol... I really do!

Some people say I'm rude but I really don't think so, I could be a bit more tactful when I say things but then that would not be the honest truth!! So, you lack common sense... I only said it because 'you do'... there's no sense in crying about it, just think before you say anything! Simple!!

Church was really inspiring, 'a friend should bring out the best in you, an acquaintance doesn't care!' Everyday is a lesson! There are people you speak to who don't care about your progress and its only until something happens that you realise whether they are a friend or acquaintance!!

I'm sorry but I love Solange Knowles... more than Beyonce! Her style is different, sound reminiscent of the 60's Motown classics... everytime I hear 'Sandcastle Disco' I start smiling!! But T.O.N.Y is the tune to look out for... 'memba I told you!!

Ms TooFly hit the nail on the head with the recent Brandy post, so heres another one! A great live performance of 'Right Here (Departed)'... Get it Brandy!!

Tuesday, 2 December 2008

Brandy - 'Long Distance'

Thursday, 27 November 2008

So I still cant understand the circumference of his head but I guess its that shape for a reason! He keeps releasing all these songs that I absolutely love!! High five to the director of this video... I feel like Beyonce and Ne-yo are really tryna bring that R'n'B era back...

Oh alright then... here's another one... Jamie Foxx feat. T.I - Just Like Me. Now let me be honest, I cant take Jamie Foxx seriously... there's just something about him, so despite serious pleading from a good friend I didnt listen to his last album. In fact she uploaded it on my iPod but I deleted it... buuttt I think imma give this album a chance!! This vid is funny!!


Wednesday, 26 November 2008


My 'best friend' calls after 4/5 months of not talking... how am I supposed to react? At first, I was soooooooo angry, like the nerve of this dude - so when it suit him he can switch the friendship on or off... I shoulda locked off but I didnt. I talked to him for a bit realising that I thought I would miss him much more than I did. We were talking about whats new in our lives and as much as I didnt think things had changed for me... I think my character has evolved! I think I'm stronger, my mouth is still as sharp as ever - so physically/materially I havent changed but Im aware of my emotions and how to control them. Emotions aren't meant to be controlled you say but when you think and behave like me, they are!!

I'm trying to get over some dude, really Im trying! Like I'll be good, wouldnt have thought about him for a few days or so... then out of nowhere... all that restraint goes to waste!! I dont know what it is because I know that Ive liked guys way more than this one... guys nicer than this one... its crazy!! I dont even feel like he deserves me liking him sorta thing... but I do and I desperately want to get over it!
I cant give it time either... it has to be a quick process... nothing long!

Im going to apologise to one of my friends... I'm realising more and more each day that quite frankly... I'm stubborn! I dont know what it is... I dont why I'm this way but I always have to put my point across, I hate the feeling of being taken for a 'dickhead'... I hate it!! I hate when guys tell me what to do... I hate when girls tell me what to do... but I really hate it when guys do it! They talk in such a patronising way like they're your dad or something... looking out for your best interests and all that jazz when really I know they love the whole 'control' factor. Some of them anyway!
Some guys just get off of the fact that they have someone to control and I just cant take that, so I exude stubborness and I've lost a perfectly good friend! He bought me a birthday cake and flowers for my birthday cos I was depressed... I know, depressed on your birthday! And I didnt show him no love at all for his, hardly show him any love at all, but I do cherish the friendship we have... argh I'm going to apologise!

It seems like we're always talking about guys on this blog... so lemme break it up with something I hate about girls! They talk toooooooo much!! No seriously, ladies you've gotta take a breath and sometimes not say anything! I have friends that call me and can talk straight for a good few hours... I'm talking one sided convos... I'm the person that 'hmms' and 'aahs'... lool but on a serious note, girls talk too much! Sometimes words are not needed!! Yeah yeah I write a lot but thats different, writing is everything I think about and you already know I think a lot! Ladies are emotional, sharing and caring... yuck... I dont think its necessary to air out your business. I think if everyone just took a few minutes to analyse some of their problems, the solutions would be much more apparent than talking to your 6 friends... just to figure it out all yourself anyway!
So its good to talk, just dont over do it!! Sooooooo rant over!!

Different but I love it! My bro didnt quite agree with me on the 1st listen but he's rinsing out the tune now... thought I'd throw in something fun!!

Master Shortie - Dead End

Tuesday, 25 November 2008

Black Girls!

Soooo... I may have scared you guys a bit with my anti men... men cheat... trick, bitch, ho tirade but I was angry! You have to understand where I was coming from but I'm done with that now... I havent introduced you to the fun side, the diplomatic side, the insightful ME!! Today, I'm gonna go for fun! Gabrielle thought it would be interesing to guess what appeals to the black male, so I made a list...

1. Colour is irrelevant
2. Age is irrelevant (but I didnt go R.Kelly on you guys... that would just be cruel)
3. They must be PENGERS... as in good looking!

... but you can be the judge of that, in no particular order


Lauren London

Gabrielle Union

Meagan Goode

Maybe even Cassie... or Solange??

Eva Longoria

How about Eva Mendes??

Charlize Theron

Dania Ramirez or best friend Kelis??

This list could go on and on and on... oh you thought I was done without mentioning the sexiest female of 2008 - not my words!!

Halle Berry (note that this was not the kind of pic I was looking for. I am not a lesbian, this was one of the photos she took for Esquire - the mag that voted her 'sexiest female')

*sigh*... the list is too long, this male to female ratio must be true cos I'm even thinking of ladies that I left out!

Kelly Rowland
Sanaa Lathan
Cheryl Cole (side eye)
Keyshia Cole (another side eye)
Alicia Keys
Jessica Alba
Jada Pinkett Smith
Nia Long
Keri Hilson

Blah blah blah, I'm done with it. Now some eye candy for the ladies, just as Gabrielle said Mark Ronson (yuck) has something about him, so does David Banner. Thank God for this tall cup of hot chocolate... nice!

Thursday, 20 November 2008


I think a lot... about everything and anything... wake up in the middle of the night thinking about stuff!!

Some examples:

Why do people get ear wax? Why do guys wear doorags? If I continuously batter/squish annoying flies... will I go to hell? I wonder what heaven is like?

Why do singers do that open mouth sexy thing when they get closer to the opposite sex... it looks really fake... real slutty!

Men in white shoes?? I don't mean trainers! Women in white shoes?? Why?

You know when a girl is wearing jeans/shorts/trousers and they wear a belt... but either the belt is too small... or it cant handle the junk in their trunk... it does this pulling thin... I hate it!

Guys with brown nails... girls with brown nails!! Sort it out please!

When someone calls you and has nothing to say... annoying!

When you see an attractive guy/girl... make the necessary eye contact but still nothing happens... yet that cross eyed guy/girl from down the road thinks its fully acceptable to make a move on you!

Facebook... yes/no?? Addictive?? No one wants to know your life story... stop updating your status every five minutes... gosh!

The word 'swagger'... who created it?? Who started it?? Bet it was a good idea at the time... but now everyone and their mums are talking about having the 'most swagger'... Fools!

People that cough and dont cover their mouths?? I dont understand... its not rocket science! Just spreading their germs all willy nilly!

Shopping on a Saturday in a very busy centre... shopping online with a crappy internet connection?

Gabrielle Union with no common sense or a very smelly Lauren London?

Morris Chestnut with a pot belly, practically no muscles or Cedric the Entertainer??

I forgot to mention a definite in my top guys list... Will Smith... he gets better with age!!

Tuesday, 18 November 2008

Hola, Bonjour, Hello...

Hello, is it me you're looking for?
- Lionel Richie

This is my first post on this blog :-)
I was going to write an introduction, but I could'nt be bothered and I'm sure you'll get to know me through my future posts.
I was saw this and thought I should share...

The Heel and Toe?? *tilts head*...really?
And don't think I did'nt notice the very wooden interpretation of the 'Dancing Machine' ...Wow

Sunday, 16 November 2008

'Cos This Stuff Can Only Happen To ME

It's been a month since the 'bitch, trick, ho' situation but I felt like I had to update you guys with my 1st post... just so you knew what was going on in my life! Its been very hard, I can't lie but I've just had to keep it moving (as Gabrielle so wisely suggested) but I have this feeling that the universe is trying to get me back for something... I dunno!

I've been going out, trying to get back to my old routines, keeping myself busy and Saturday was no different! I woke up extra extra early 'cos I needed to do my hair, (ladies... you know when it gets to that time... you can't run/hide anymore)... I know it gets crazy busy from as soon as the shop opens so I got there early and finished... hmmm... at a reasonable time I guess! I always hope for the best when I go hairdressers... finish in 2 hours tops... but it never goes to plan!

So, I'm done with the hairdressers, done with the food shopping, feel a bit hungry and pop into Greggs! KMT!! I dunno... am I to blame for being hungry or what?! It really is getting to me now... I pick up a sandwich and a drink... get into the queue and my heart skips a beat!

It looks like HIM from the back... but I couldnt tell... I was breathing so deeply you woulda thought I was going into labour... kmt... fucking hell man!! Just bullshit! Its only been 2 minutes in the queue but seems like much longer... I've managed to calm myself down... I mean it might not even be him! But lo and behold - it was HIM!

He just stood there looking at me... fucking wanker! Staring for a solid 5 minutes before he mustered up 'hey' (in yellow because it was a very feeble, sheepish 'hey')... kmt... I must be a dickhead 'cos this fool is really trying to be friendly... it hasn't even been that long since the incident... so why is he talking to me?! I dunno what came over me but I was so pissed off... I said a sharp 'hello' and kept it moving... he walked back up to me, grabbing my arm asking if we could talk... but at that point I had absolutely nothing to say.

I loved that guy for 3 years of my life... he loved that bitch for 3 minutes... and I must be the cordial one... I must act like the bigger person and go somewhere and talk... nah fuck that! I bought my food and walked past him... left him standing there like the prick that he is... and as much as I want to go on like 'superwoman'... I burst into tears as soon as I left the shop, i don't know what came over me! Sad, I know!

I loved him for 3 years of my life... and now nothing! They say 'love is forgiving'... not my love!

Friday, 14 November 2008

My Top Guys...

This is totally my opinion... and not in any particular order! If any one of these guys proposed to me... it would be a straight YES!! Not all that cryin crap... "oh my gosh... I don't know what to say" rubbish... no hesitation on my part, just a straight YES!!

Jackie Long... I dunno... there's just something about this guy!!

Q from 112... I have to be honest, I never used to pay him any attention... it used to be all about Daron for me... then I saw them at a radio station (oh those celebrity chasing days... I was young - please don't insult me)... Q stood out! He actually looks like this!

Gotta get someone from this side of the pond... soooo who other than Idris Elba!! Woop Woop!! I don't care... I don't care... he is a very fine specimen!! And he's from the LDN... where did all our brothers go?

And note... that I do not discriminate... Paul Walker, Wentworth Miller and yes... Mark Ronson... definitely have the 'je ne sais quoi' about them... I don't know what it is... but they have it!!

I stand by this dude... he just upped his swags effortlessly! Got rid of the head band... the plaster... them baggy ass clothes... and totally upgraded! I 'heart' Nelly!

I can't think of any others at this moment... but this is not the end of my list... hmm... maybe I should ask the fellas who their top ten ladies are... could be very interesting!!

Wednesday, 12 November 2008

Bring on the movies....

I've been really bored of late... just really bored, its got to the point where even Facebook doesnt do the job... which then spurs me to rekindle my love with Youtube! How I love it so... I think of anything off the top of my head, type it in and voila... you might see a few vid posts in the future... embrace it!!

One of my faves... 'The Wood'... I dont know how many times Ive watched it... but I know its too much... when you start knowing all the lines and can re-enact one whole scene, its A LOT!!

Just like this movie too... I have to give Better Never Than Late a shout out for that one... saw it there... and it brought back so many memories!!

Since there is no excitement in my life right now... this is me!! Having read 'Me' talk about her life has me rather thankful for my mundane days... sorry Me! Might have to change the name of the blog... 'A black girl with issues'... lmaoooo... I'm sooorryyyy!! Me... you know its all love! Your man obviously didn't deserve you if all that girl did was wave her coochie in the air... you know how I feel about this anyway... just 'keep it moving'... your future will thank you for it!

Tuesday, 11 November 2008

Shit just got real!

Those are just a few words that come to mind when I think about that prick! She knew what she was doing from the get go and I can't believe I fell for it. You could call her an 'angel in disguise' cos I believed everything she said and stuck up for her when people used 2 cuss her out! Im such an idiot! Arrghhh... I can't express how pissed off I am... but IM PISSED! Like WTF... I brought her into my circle, she had no fucking friends, she had no life before I met her and I felt bad for her cos she was such a nice person. The last laugh is on me init... cos Im the one who now has no friends and no man!

My friends stopped talking to me because I continued to talk to her, they told me about her loose self and I refused to listen cos I'm stubborn like that! Big fuckin' mistake! How can I justify it? It doesnt even make sense in my head... she slept with my boyfriend, SHE...SLEPT...WITH...MY...BOYFRIEND!

I always said it would never happen to me... now look! It just doesnt make sense... I was with him for 3 years and I treated him right, I know I did! If I hadn't he would've left me from time... 3 fucking years of my life... don't get it twisted, I am mad at him but thats another issue! Its the fact that I try to be this loving, caring, friendly person and its get thrown back in my face!

I can't sleep, I can't eat, I'm always thinking about them... together... trying to figure out when this madness started... regretting the day I ever met that bitch. Dumb skank, stupid prick! She knew what she was doing, she knew! And I was there, ignorant to it all... such a fuckin' dumbass! I can't think straight, I just don't know what to do... what do I do?!

Im too old for this shit, I dunno... arrghhhhhh!! It feels surreal, like I wish it didn't happen but I know it did... I can't explain the feeling!

All I know is this one girl has changed my life and I don't know how long its gonna take to get back to normal. Fuckin' tramp! ARRGHHHH!! Just making me look like any dickhead... the worst thing is that my friends warned me but I'm too bloody stubborn... now look where I am! Kmt!

Shit just got real - 4 real!

*the expletives... sorry... but that's how I feel... *

Monday, 10 November 2008

Don't Hate!

This vid has been circulating and I love it!! Good to know its not only the ladies that practise dance moves in their rooms... this guy slyly puts some girls to shame!!

Get it boy! *clicks fingers*

Sunday, 9 November 2008

Hi!! My name is Me...

I know... 'Me'... I have to keep it real with you guys... I'm gonna be sharing a lot and I don't know who will come across this blog... so unlike Gabrielle... I will not share my identity! But rest assured that you're getting nothing but the truth from me.

I'm 24, living in London and unlike the blog, I am a Black Girl With Issues! I cannot lie! Everyday is... lol... everyday is different! There will be some funny stories, best believe... but there will be posts where I vent... only natural!

I feel very privileged to write on this blog... thank you Gabrielle for having me!

'My name is Me... and shit just got real!'

Ever Have Days Like This...

Life is crazy!! I'm telling you... it started with one thing and just catapulted into numerous problems! And even though this is how I feel right now... no one will ever know! I'm private like that... but I do want the madness to end!

Friday, 7 November 2008

They Say A Good Black Man Is Hard To Find...

Women complain about the shortage of good men and relocating to another part of the world to find 'The One'... but how many women have actually come across a good man and dismissed him? I came across this and couldn't agree more with what the author said... I just wish I knew who wrote it!

Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and the halls at work. Most we can’t see because we don’t know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn’t flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it’s better to find someone who’s got your back rather than someone who turns your head.

A good man doesn’t agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn’t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won’t have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn’t have to degrade you to prove he’s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don’t live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, “Aha! I knew you were a dog!”

A good man isn’t insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.

A good man doesn’t necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine’s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don’t judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You’ll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It’s just not true.

A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. A good black man has a love and a heart for God. As his relationship and love with and for God grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow…Our beautiful black men we salute you, appreciate you and thank you for who you are and all you’ve done.

-author unknown

Wednesday, 22 October 2008

... Why?!

I've been hybernating in the house for a while and decided to go out today... *sigh*... big bloody mistake!! I dont know what it is about people in my area... or people in general... they piss me offfffff!! I mean I know I was on swags today (this girl is a sly droppers... meaning I looked nice), I'm not even shallow but everyone knows when they look on point and today I did!!

I digress... so I'm going to the centre to pay bills, sort out my finances basically and from the time I enter my 1st stop... Im already negged out!! 'Why the hell are you watching my face... bloody pricks?!' People are watching my face hard... and if you know me... you will know that this is one of my pet peeves... like if you want to look at my face you can, but keep it to a minimum... like 30 seconds... is that too much even?! Goossshhhhh!!

I shoulda worn this tee... but what about the staring ladies? Hahaha... actually it could apply to them too.. Rant over!!

- Gabrielle

Friday, 17 October 2008

This Girl Has No Issues...

... And the same goes for many other black girls around the world, but for some funny reason... we are the most talked about!! If it isn't our rude attitude, crazy ways or even 'anger syndrome'... (imagine)... it's always something else.

So... this blog is for you... for me... for us!! In fact... you don't even have to be black! I'm not saying that females are perfect, far from it... but I'm going to air it all out... what people tend to think but are scared to say... you'll find it here!!

No boundaries. Just all truth!!


- Gabrielle